Raphael Schondorf, M.Sc.
Certified Individual and Family Therapist
Hope. Help. Heal.
Perhaps you are in a relationship and find yourself floundering? Maybe you see a loved one wrestling with addiction and feel powerless to help him? Or maybe you are struggling to find meaning?
Whatever the issue is, as a man, turning to someone for help can be a tough step to take; and for a frum man, it can be all the more challenging. I know just what this is like, and I am dedicated to supporting you in taking this courageous step.
At times you may feel like there is no hope, that things cannot be better. But I believe that they can.
People can heal, and they can grow. I have seen it time and time again. So go ahead and take the first
step towards a better tomorrow.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the goals of therapy?
The goals of therapy are the client’s goals. In general, people enter therapy because they feel stuck in some area/issue in their life. I work together with my clients to help them define their goals, (what they want to get out of therapy) and then we work towards achieving them. I believe that therapy should help a person move forward and empower him with the tools to become his own therapist and lead a life that is more true to himself.
What therapeutic modalities do you use?
My approach is eclectic. I draw upon a variety of theories and modalities to create an individually tailored therapy that is suited to your unique personality and needs. I am officially trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) and in EMDR and I have found these modalities to be very effective in resolving deeply rooted issues in a compassionate way. In addition, I draw upon Psychodynamic theory, Family Systems theory, Gestalt, Psychodrama, Mindfulness, CBT and more. I believe that a therapist needs to be committed to constant growth and development and I am always learning and expanding my toolbox.
How long does therapy take?
Length of therapy depends on your goals. For example a single incident trauma can often be resolved in a few sessions and a family relationship issue can take significantly longer. Even when therapy is a longer process, clients usually report significant shifts and growth after just a few sessions and this encourages them to keep going.
Do you have Rabbinic approval?
Yes. I am a talmid of Hagaon Rav Moshe Hillel Hirsch Shlit”a, Rosh HaYeshiva – Yeshivas Slabodka. He is familiar with my work and warmly endorses me both professionally and as a ben-Torah.
What type of person goes to therapy?
There is no one type. Any person who wants to heal and/or grow. It takes a lot of courage, especially for a man, to reach out for help. I recognize this and have the deepest respect for my clients, who have the strength to meet their challenges and take this step.
How can I get my loved one into therapy?
It is often useful to help him see how therapy will be beneficial to him. It is important that you impart the message (either overtly or not) that his decision to go to therapy will only increase your respect for him. Do not try to get him to agree to “sign up” but rather to try it out for a few sessions. Depending on
the individual and the dynamic of your relationship it may be helpful to ask him to try it out because it is important to you. This is a delicate question and the answer really varies person by person.
Do you only treat religious people?
My clients are both religious and secular. I do not discriminate in any way and have the deepest respect for each person and their individual life journey.
Contact me to arrange a free, no obligation consultation, and I will try to get back to you within 24 hours.
Offices in Modiin Illit and Jerusalem
On-line therapy available